I was home visiting my family this past weekend for the Easter holiday. My school is gracious enough to give its students a few extra days off, so I got to have a long weekend back home.
I didn’t do much during that time. Well, if “doing things” means being productive. I worked on my Camp NaNoWriMo project, did some homework here and there, but I mostly did things that I enjoyed, like reading and gaming and spending time with my family.
It was a quiet, relaxing weekend. I didn’t pressure myself to do much.
Sometimes, it seems like a lot of people make a big deal about their “social media fast” or taking a “Sabbath” or what have you, and I, being cynical by nature, see those sorts of mentions as attention grabbing. But in hindsight, after a weekend where I didn’t do much and didn’t talk to many people, I gotta say that there’s some truth to it. Sometimes it’s nice to spend a morning just reading a book instead of texting people or scrolling through feeds.
It’s not something for everyone, but maybe it’s worth a try. Enjoy quiet moments and quiet days. You often don’t realize how much you need them until they’re passed.
How do you like to spend quiet moments? What do you do to rest your mind and body? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!
(Although, is it really considered “breaking” them if you’re the one who created them in the first place?)
There’s this saying that I was taught when I was younger: “Rules are for the obedience of fools and the guidance of wise men.” I’m still not entirely sure what it means, but it’s usually stated before someone goes and does something potentially rule-breaking, as if saying it absolves them of their crimes.
We all have rules for ourselves, right? Even if they’re not written down anywhere, we all have certain rules we set for ourselves. For example:
“I can’t use [insert social media] until after I finish my work for the day.”
“Every time I get paid, I will save this much of it.”
“I will only buy gas from XYZ Gas Station.”
Most of the time, these rules can be good for keeping ourselves accountable, especially when there’s no one else around to do so. I limit the times I can use social media so that I don’t waste my morning away reading the same three tweets over and over. I save money from every paycheck so I don’t randomly wind up broke someday. Rules help me keep my life together.
It’s December, you’re in college, the last thing you want to think about is celebrating Christmas. There are exams to study for, papers to write, group projects to suffer through… who has time to think about the holidays?
Look, as much as I hate to say it, but the busy end-of-semester rush doesn’t delay the passing of time. Christmas will continue to get closer, and if you happen to have a late semester (like I did this year), it’ll be upon you almost as soon as you’re home for the holidays.
It’s hard to celebrate Christmas in college, but fortunately there are some ways you can still have holiday cheer while passing all of your exams.
Recently, I committed the English major’s unpardonable sin.
Plagiarism? No, worse than that – I admitted that I haven’t read the Harry Potter series.
You would think from the scandalized gasps that I’d just admitted to first-degree murder, but that was not the case. Nope, I just haven’t read one of the most beloved fantasy series of all time.
Now, granted, I did pick up the first few books in my late teens, but I never finished the series due to (buckle your seatbelts) a lack of interest. That has actually been my reason for avoiding them all along – my parents never told me I wasn’t allowed to read the books, which might have been a more acceptable excuse at my religious college. No, the reason I didn’t read Harry Potter was because I didn’t want to.
You might be wondering, why didn’t I want to? I’ve always loved reading, and I don’t have anything against fantasy novels. Why didn’t I devour the Harry Potter series like the rest of my peers?
The answer is right there: everyone else was doing it, and therefore, I didn’t want to.
Look guys, I’m a planner. If there’s a trip or event coming up, I’m usually the one who’s figuring out when we need to leave, how we’ll get there, and what we’ll need to bring with us. Last minute changes are not my best friend, because that usually means I’m scrambling to prepare or adapt to the new situation. It’s a bit stressful, actually.
This would also explain why I typically have my blog topics picked out weeks in advance. As deadlines get closer, I already have a head start by knowing what I want to talk about. Of course, there are times when I choose to deviate from my plans if there’s something timely that I want to write about. There are also times when I forget to plan (er – like this week). But most of the time, I have plans for everything.
This was said to me by one of my friends the other night while we were talking about the Myers-Briggs types. I know she meant well by it, I wasn’t offended by it, and I’m certainly not here to dispute the validity of it. However, what she said made me think, and I believe it’s evidence of one of the biggest misconceptions regarding INTJs and the Meyers-Briggs personality types as a whole.
I’ve written about something similar before when I ranted about INTJ representation in fiction and how I was tired of being cast as the villain. Stereotypically, INTJs are callous, arrogant, and overall unkind people. As I stated in that earlier post, this stereotype is actually very rarely the truth, but how can that be? If INTJs are supposed to have these traits of fierce independence and confidence, how can they be kind? I’m not gonna pretend I have all the answers, but I’d like to provide a few thoughts on the matter.
We’ve all been there: You have a paper due tomorrow and you haven’t even started the book yet, you have a thousand things to get done over the weekend, or you didn’t write your blog post ahead of time and you have no idea what to do.
Everyone struggles with managing their time (anyone who says they don’t is probably lying and playing Candy Crush in class). And look, I’m no angel either (re: writing blog posts), but I have learned a few things over the years, especially after starting college. Today, I want to take a few minutes and talk about time management and a few ways I’ve gotten better at it.
In the age of Spotify, Apple Music, and other streaming services, some might say that radio is dead. Though I hardly agree that that’s true, I think the talk radio of yesterday has evolved into a new form – the podcast.
For those unfamiliar with the term, podcasts are shows presented in an audio format, but unlike radio, which is broadcast or streamed, podcast is shared in episodes, which can be downloaded by listeners. Podcasts have a wide range of genres as well – some are informative, some cover news and current events, and others may even be audio dramas.
Personally, I listen to podcasts on and off. For me, it’s hard to focus on things like schoolwork and writing while listening to someone else’s voice, but when I’m working on other projects (like, say, a cosplay project…), they can be really entertaining to listen to. This week, I’m rounding up three of my favorite podcasts.
I’m a sophomore in college now, but before that, I was cyberschooled. Way back when I was beginning kindergarten, my parents decided that instead of attending a traditional public school or homeschooling me, I would be enrolled in an online charter school. I stuck with cyberschooling all the way through my high school graduation, and even though it’s been quite a while since I attended an online class, I still remember those days fondly.
By now, you might be wondering, what is cyberschooling? Think of it as a hybrid between a traditional brick-and-mortar school and homeschooling. Like homeschooling, it offers flexibility and allows you to work at your own pace, but like brick-and-mortar schools, you have teachers, classmates, and classes that you attend via the internet.
Now that I’m in college, I’m learning that there are a lot of important life skills I learned while I was still being cyberschooled, and these skills have helped me a lot. Since cyberschooling tends to get a bad rap (much like its cousin, homeschooling), I wanted to share just a few of the things cyberschooling taught me, and how they’ve helped me now that I’m graduated.
Imagine you’re at a get-together with some of your friends, and you meet someone new. You make small talk for a while, but then the conversation turns to fruit.
“I’m an apple-lover,” your new friend says, carefully explaining to you what that means, what apples are, and how apple-lovers are just so misunderstood.
When there’s a lull in the conversation, you say, “I like apples, but I actually prefer oranges.”
And that’s when the conversation gets nasty. Your new apple-loving friend demands to know how you could be so rude and inconsiderate to have different ideas about fruit. Clearly apple-lovers are superior, and orange-lovers need to know where their place is!
Now, I don’t know about you, but that whole scenario sounds pretty ridiculous to me. I mean, imagine being awful to someone else just because of one of their traits. Seems crazy, right?