This was said to me by one of my friends the other night while we were talking about the Myers-Briggs types. I know she meant well by it, I wasn’t offended by it, and I’m certainly not here to dispute the validity of it. However, what she said made me think, and I believe it’s evidence of one of the biggest misconceptions regarding INTJs and the Meyers-Briggs personality types as a whole.
I’ve written about something similar before when I ranted about INTJ representation in fiction and how I was tired of being cast as the villain. Stereotypically, INTJs are callous, arrogant, and overall unkind people. As I stated in that earlier post, this stereotype is actually very rarely the truth, but how can that be? If INTJs are supposed to have these traits of fierce independence and confidence, how can they be kind? I’m not gonna pretend I have all the answers, but I’d like to provide a few thoughts on the matter.
One fateful day many years ago, someone handed me a GameBoy Advance and a copy of Pokémon Sapphire, and my life was never the same.
I suppose you could take that in the literal sense – i.e. I became a huge geek after that, and my chances of ever being able to pretend I was a normal human being were completely shot – but I think there’s something more there too, something less tangible and obvious than discovering a new hobby.
The things that are a part of our childhoods often have a bigger impact on us than we realize, but we tend to brush these things off as being “not mature enough” to have any real significance in our lives. We look back at the hobbies we had and the games we played as children and think, “Yeah, that was fun, but it doesn’t really mean anything now.”
We all see the world in different ways. Some of us pay more attention to the people around us, what they wear, how often they smile; while others of us notice the way the sunlight hits the trees or how you can smell Starbucks coffee from the other side of the mall.
These differences often depend on our personalities or the things we consider most important, and writers are no different. Just like other “types” of people (for lack of a better term), we see the world in a way that others don’t.What’s it like to see through the eyes of a writer? I’ll do my best to explain today.
Thankfulness is one of those things we talk about a lot but don’t really do much with. But let’s be real, actually practicing thankfulness is hard. We’ve all been trained to say “thank you,” when strangers hold open doors for us and sending thank-you notes to friends and family, but how to we take our gratitude beyond that?
For Americans, Thanksgiving is just around the corner, and so I thought this would be an appropriate time to share these thoughts. I know many of you are reading this from around the world, and so this isn’t just about the holiday of Thanksgiving. Gratitude is a universal concept, after all, and I think everyone can benefit from expressing it a little more often.
“New” is kind of a scary word, isn’t it? A lot of us don’t like new things – new food, new shows, new people (yes, even if you’re an extrovert), and so on. The unknown frightens us – we’re afraid of getting hurt, making a mistake, embarrassing ourselves. It’s normal to be a little scared of new things, but when we let the terror of the unknown control our lives, we end up stuck.
I promise not to ramble about life’s mysteries or theorize as to why we as humans are so afraid of new things in the first place. Instead, I wanted to share a few thoughts on trying new things and why it’s important. After all, you don’t want to be stuck in the same place your entire life, do you?
A few years ago, I was hanging out with my brother when he told me he was going through his Instagram profile and delete some old pictures he had posted. I thought this was strange, and I asked him why he wanted to do that. I don’t remember what his response was, but that was a question that has stuck with me for a while now. Why do people delete their old social media posts? What’s the purpose of it?
I suppose the reasoning might have to do with embarrassment in some ways. After all, my generation is the first to have grown up on social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and so on, and for the most part, the profiles we created when we were thirteen are still active today. Because of that, the posts we made back when we were younger still exist on the internet, whether they be middle-school selfies or dumb things we wrote. They’re there, haunting us, so we delete them to avoid any future embarrassment.
Personally, however, I don’t like to do this. If you were to check my Instagram now and scroll through all 257 of my posts, you’ll still find things all the way back to 2013. And yeah, some of them are a little weird and embarrassing. So how come I never deleted them?
If you walked up to me (or sent me a message, since it’s unlikely we live in close proximity to each other) and asked me if I enjoyed blogging, I’d tell you of course I did! I mean, I wouldn’t do it if I didn’t get some satisfaction from it. And if you followed that up by asking if you should start a blog, I’d say “Absolutely!” Blogging is great for sharing your ideas with the world, it’s a fun project, and it gives you a sense of accomplishment.
No matter where you go on the internet, there’s an idea that bloggers have great lives: they have hundreds of followers, their pictures are beautiful, and their posts are always well-written. Bloggers are perfect, aren’t they? They’re so well put-together.
Imagine yourself in a conversation with some of your friends. One person mentions something – maybe it’s a new movie that just came out, your favorite book, or a hobby of yours – whatever it is, it’s something you’re passionate about. Suddenly, you find yourself exclaiming, “Oh my gosh, I love [that thing]!” and you end up talking a mile a minute, expressing your enjoyment of the aforementioned Thing.
Okay, so maybe it doesn’t always happen that way, but we’ve all had those moments where the conversation turns towards something that we love, and we can’t help talking about it. Whether it’s a hobby, a form of media, a cause, or just one of our favorite things, we all have stuff that we’re passionate about and love talking about.
However, I think we’ve all also had those moments where we feel like we’re talking too much about The Thing. It’s the feeling of self-doubt creeping in and telling you that you’re talking too much, no one cares, and you should just shut up.
Today, I want to talk about talking, specifically, talking about the things we love. It’s hard, it’s awkward, and sometimes, it can be embarrassing. But we all have things we enjoy and want to share with the world, so how do we do it? For me, it really just comes down to two simple principles.
I don’t really talk about relationships much. There are a couple reasons for this, the biggest of which being that it’s not something I really care to discuss at length. Sure, I’m happy to offer some common-sense advice when asked, but most of the time I’d rather let the matter drop. Today, however, I have something to say.
Over the past couple of years, it’s become more common for people my age to be single. It wasn’t strange to see people in my parents’ generation get married in their early 20s, but lately, it seems to me that people aren’t getting married until later on in life. I’m not here to discuss the pros/cons of that or even why it happens, but I have noticed one result: people have become more single-person-friendly.
Generally, this isn’t a bad thing. However, there are other times when this conversation comes off as demeaning or insensitive, even though that isn’t the intention. I don’t mean to say that all people in relationships have malicious intentions towards single people, but sometimes, we can get pretty frustrated. If you’re wondering how to stop inadvertently frustrating us, here are a few things you can keep in mind (as illustrated by pipe cleaner stick figures).
The internet is confusing. Ever since social media became popular, the internet has become a rapidly-changing place, which often leaves the average person feeling disoriented. Even I was once lost – I never knew how to react to certain situations like offensive tweets or weird, stupid trends.
Fortunately, I was able to overcome that, and now I’m going pass what I’ve learned onto you! Whether you’re dealing with people making money, knowing how to share your favorite memes, or successfully winning a comment debate, these five simple rules will help guide you as you navigate the world wide web.